It must have been close to midnight when Dad knocked on the
door of the Stubbs’ bunkhouse where Jim and I and some other family members had
gathered. The unbelievable, the unthinkable had happened. Our daughter Rachel had
been killed instantly in a car crash just west of Salt Lake City. We had been celebrating
my dad’s birthday at a family reunion at Lake Mead and Boulder City, Nevada.
The spot was chosen to honor him since he had spent many years serving there,
both as bishop and a teacher at the high school. It was hot and miserable in
the motel at Lake Mead where Dad was staying, and he wasn’t feeling very well.
He hadn’t told us, but the illness that would end with his death in early
September was already taking its toll on his body. However, when we called and
told him about Rachel’s accident, he quickly got out of bed and came up the winding
road to Boulder City to comfort us as we prepared to head home to Utah.
Bert N Whitney on a desert outing |
The plan was to spend the next morning, Father’s Day, at
church meetings in Boulder City, celebrating our dad’s service there in the
building he helped build so many years ago. Now, Jim and I were traveling
through the night to meet with our children and grandchildren in Utah, while
the rest of the extended family reunion went on without us. In those early
hours of what would be his last Father’s Day, he gave both Jim and I father’s
blessings that would carry us through the hard days and weeks ahead.
I remember and treasure so many blessings given me by my
father. He was known in our family, and perhaps beyond, for his gift of
healing. He served me and my family generously with that gift over the years.
The parade of memories as I consider this includes the time Carl fell off the
top of the slide in Logandale Park, when Rachel fell into the window well of
their home, when my eyes needed healing, times at the reunions and precious
private blessings in his home. I always expected the healings to be miraculous
and speedy until one time during a blessing when he counseled me that growing
older meant my body would be breaking down in ways that were long-term and
persistent. That warning proved true, yet I treasure the security I felt and still
feel when he blessed me with protection as I go about my work in serving
others.
Dad taught me to value and enjoy schoolwork. He was quietly
proud of my academic success. I saw him continue to extend his own education year
after year. That made it natural for me to have the same pursuits as an adult.
He gave me a love for the outdoors, especially the desert. I
remember his patient instruction as I tried to climb up the red rocks. “Put
your foot right there. Now, do you see the next place to hold on?” He didn’t
worry about his beloved 4-wheeler when I turned it over. He encouraged me to
get right back on and go again, this time a little faster.
I learned to love and respect my ancestors through his
example. The Whitney reunions were sacred occasions that we never missed, no
matter how young the youngest baby was. He never gave up learning the latest
technology to help us keep our family history current. Dad was a private person
but he wrote regularly in his on-line production of the family newsletter. His
last family history goal was to find and photograph all of his
great-grandparents’ graves. A worthy goal, in my cemetery loving heart. He was
always the first to donate time and money to family history projects.
Dad gave service to so many in his public callings in the church and on the job. He was a
schoolteacher and dean. He served in Church callings as a bishop, in the
temple, and as executive secretary to the stake president of the Logandale Stake.
He also went about doing good in his small towns he called home. He was a
renowned handyman and would often be found helping repair something for
someone. He built and remodeled our homes and church buildings. I thought he
could fix or build anything. It was an adjustment for me to find out that not
all men have the same talents.
This year (2020) his birthday and Father’s Day, always intertwined
in my mind, are actually on the same day. I’m thinking about you, Dad. I’m
grateful for you. I especially remember the first early hours of your last Father’s
Day in 2005. Thanks for your service that day and so many others. I love you.