It was a crazy quilt of things from my dad, used lighting
fixtures and drapery rods, old posters, notes and illustrations from long-ago
lessons given and forgotten. But no, not forgotten, because here they were in
the back of the truck. In the stacks of well-used items there were also
treasures, sparking memories of the past, things that my cousin said she would
like. There were items left over from my grandparents’ life. As I sorted
frantically - my uncle was waiting for me to finish - scenes of the past flashed
through my mind and heart.
My sons (or variously, my brothers) helped me move
mattresses and bed frames to another pile of “things we might want.” The family
reunion we seemed to be attending was almost over and my uncle was ready to go
home and join his wife. (In real life, this particular aunt has just died and “gone
home to join her husband.” Ah, dreams.)
My son, who was valiantly helping me, hurt his hands in the
process of moving the large items, but continued the work. My brother, on the
other hand, declared himself finished with this madness and left to go to bed. My
cousin who was there grew bored and reminded me that her dad needed to leave. I
felt the pressures of my helpers’ pain (waiting, getting hurt, getting fed up)
but I couldn’t stop. I continued to walk down memory lane, walking, not even able to run,
but carefully examining each item. Why? Although we occasionally discovered some valuables (jewels, if you will), what I was getting out of this process were not the bits and pieces I was looking through, but knowledge and insight about my own life.
If you have sorted through the lives of family members or
even your own life in the process of writing or preparing to write family history, you understand this dream. If not, grab a helper or two and
tackle a pile of stuff, either real or imagined, and learn what it has to teach
you about living and about yourself. Hope to see you at rootstech where we will
continue this journey.
I wish I could join you at RootsTech. Maybe next year. Enjoy it!
ReplyDeleteThanks Kathy. I just read on Thomas MacEntee's blog, Geneabloggers, that many sessions will be live streamed. Maybe you can join me!
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